I have 31 days to determine how I will write my new name. Do I keep my maiden name and do hyphen? Do I just do what I normally do and write my first name, middle initial and then my new last name?
I think names are so important. I love unique, but not weird. I love sentimental and traditional. I love strong names and names that make a statement. I guess that's why, of all the things I have to worry about in the next 31 days, how I write my name is important to me!
Oh, and can someone PLEASE remind me to get the marriage license?
From the almost: Jonya R. Dusing, Jonya Ulm-Dusing, Jonya R. Ulm-Dusing
From single city princess to soccer step-mom. Come join the adventure!
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
Thursday, May 24, 2012
Jonya's Thoughts Thursday
These are my thoughts right now:
1. I'm getting married six weeks from Saturday.
2. I'm moving from my current office to down the hall four weeks from tomorrow. I will lose my windows and will, once again, be working in a cave.
3. Robert has started coaching softball for the summer. Practices are two times a week and games are one to two times a week. In case you are math challenged like I am...that means he is gone three to four nights a week for eight weeks.
4. I forgot the password to the RSVP address I set up for the wedding. I had to reset it with a new one.
5. I remembered at 5:00 a.m. this morning two more people that I forgot to send wedding invitations too.
6. My landlord is very ill and without typing out a novel, we will be moving again after the wedding.
7. Baby will have to learn a new home and I worry about her hurting herself in the process.
8. Delaney will begin staying with us for two weeks at a time beginning the first week in June. I need to plan meals/food for her to eat and plan dinner so she is fed.
9. I will have to start coming into work early so that I'm home at a decent hour to care for said teen above.
10. I have finally fit into my pants from last summer, that are smaller than the ones I have been able to wear the last four months.
11. I'm afraid my wedding dress will not fit due to being able to fit in my smaller pants. My dress fitting is tomorrow. I don't want to get yelled at and wondering if I can stuff the corset?
12. I wish I would have eloped.
13. Airline tickets are super cheap right now and I want to buy tickets for the cruise Robert and I want to go on.
14. I need to pay for the wedding before I plan the honeymoon.
15. I should've only had one soda today instead of two.
16. My pants are killing me since I've ate lunch. Maybe I'm not quite ready for this size...there's hope for tomorrow's dress fitting.
17. I need to get contacts.
18. I forgot to have lab work done at my doctor this week.
19. I have so many piles on my desk I have no idea what I'm doing and where I was at with any of my projects.
20. Really ready to go home.
21. I think as a coaches wife I need to buy some cute outfits to wear to the games.
22. I wonder if we should try to find a home and buy it in the next few months or find a place to rent and take the year we had originally planned on to safe? I wonder if we will be able to find a place to rent with two huge dogs and a cat?
23. I really need to start working again.
24. I think I might need a heavy duty anxiety pill tonight.
25. I'm so excited my Mom is coming tomorrow and staying most of the week.
I feel so much better. Thanks for listening. You can just bill me!
1. I'm getting married six weeks from Saturday.
2. I'm moving from my current office to down the hall four weeks from tomorrow. I will lose my windows and will, once again, be working in a cave.
3. Robert has started coaching softball for the summer. Practices are two times a week and games are one to two times a week. In case you are math challenged like I am...that means he is gone three to four nights a week for eight weeks.
4. I forgot the password to the RSVP address I set up for the wedding. I had to reset it with a new one.
5. I remembered at 5:00 a.m. this morning two more people that I forgot to send wedding invitations too.
6. My landlord is very ill and without typing out a novel, we will be moving again after the wedding.
7. Baby will have to learn a new home and I worry about her hurting herself in the process.
8. Delaney will begin staying with us for two weeks at a time beginning the first week in June. I need to plan meals/food for her to eat and plan dinner so she is fed.
9. I will have to start coming into work early so that I'm home at a decent hour to care for said teen above.
10. I have finally fit into my pants from last summer, that are smaller than the ones I have been able to wear the last four months.
11. I'm afraid my wedding dress will not fit due to being able to fit in my smaller pants. My dress fitting is tomorrow. I don't want to get yelled at and wondering if I can stuff the corset?
12. I wish I would have eloped.
13. Airline tickets are super cheap right now and I want to buy tickets for the cruise Robert and I want to go on.
14. I need to pay for the wedding before I plan the honeymoon.
15. I should've only had one soda today instead of two.
16. My pants are killing me since I've ate lunch. Maybe I'm not quite ready for this size...there's hope for tomorrow's dress fitting.
17. I need to get contacts.
18. I forgot to have lab work done at my doctor this week.
19. I have so many piles on my desk I have no idea what I'm doing and where I was at with any of my projects.
20. Really ready to go home.
21. I think as a coaches wife I need to buy some cute outfits to wear to the games.
22. I wonder if we should try to find a home and buy it in the next few months or find a place to rent and take the year we had originally planned on to safe? I wonder if we will be able to find a place to rent with two huge dogs and a cat?
23. I really need to start working again.
24. I think I might need a heavy duty anxiety pill tonight.
25. I'm so excited my Mom is coming tomorrow and staying most of the week.
I feel so much better. Thanks for listening. You can just bill me!
Friday, May 18, 2012
Almost Step-Mom
Time is sneaking up on me. If you ask Robert, and please don't, he will be able to tell you how many days, hours, minutes, and seconds before we are married. As that time draws nearer, I'm reminded of one of the best parts of this marriage thing...I'm becoming a Step-Mom!
Every time I hear Step-Mom I think of the movie. That movie mashes buttons in my soul. Now, more so, that I'm actually experiencing some of the exact same things it portrays. Each character resonates with me, although I never thought I would be a Step-Mom. I have even thanked and talked to my own Step-Mom, Tanda, letting her know how much I appreciate her and the role that she plays in my life. I have also apologized for the things that I might have said or done because I was not always a nice Step Daughter. Thank goodness I have a wonderful relationship with her now and she seems to only remember me as "good" (stop rolling your eyes!).
There are so many times that I have felt left out of moments in time with friends and family because I was unable to grasp this entire parenting/living for someone else/responsibility/trying to do the right thing by your kid. I totally get it now! I'm not even really parenting...just driving slower, trying not to cuss, when I do cuss trying to use words that aren't too bad, being mindful of my actions as they might be copied, reminding Delaney that she shouldn't say/do the things I just did because that is naughty, bribing her not to tell her Dad how many times I cuss, and trying to figure out how my Mom was such an awesome Mom when faced with so many challenges. One of which was raising me!
I have the blessing and fond memories of holding Delaney at half a day old (she was so tiny, looked just like her Daddy and had the most perfect skin) and watching her grow into this amazing teenager. I can't say that it has been easy, but I can say without a doubt, that it's the best thing that has happen to me in an extremely long time. The love I have for Delaney only grows and I cherish the relationship we have. Now, if I can just convince her a little bling bling is a GOOD thing...
Every time I hear Step-Mom I think of the movie. That movie mashes buttons in my soul. Now, more so, that I'm actually experiencing some of the exact same things it portrays. Each character resonates with me, although I never thought I would be a Step-Mom. I have even thanked and talked to my own Step-Mom, Tanda, letting her know how much I appreciate her and the role that she plays in my life. I have also apologized for the things that I might have said or done because I was not always a nice Step Daughter. Thank goodness I have a wonderful relationship with her now and she seems to only remember me as "good" (stop rolling your eyes!).
There are so many times that I have felt left out of moments in time with friends and family because I was unable to grasp this entire parenting/living for someone else/responsibility/trying to do the right thing by your kid. I totally get it now! I'm not even really parenting...just driving slower, trying not to cuss, when I do cuss trying to use words that aren't too bad, being mindful of my actions as they might be copied, reminding Delaney that she shouldn't say/do the things I just did because that is naughty, bribing her not to tell her Dad how many times I cuss, and trying to figure out how my Mom was such an awesome Mom when faced with so many challenges. One of which was raising me!
I have the blessing and fond memories of holding Delaney at half a day old (she was so tiny, looked just like her Daddy and had the most perfect skin) and watching her grow into this amazing teenager. I can't say that it has been easy, but I can say without a doubt, that it's the best thing that has happen to me in an extremely long time. The love I have for Delaney only grows and I cherish the relationship we have. Now, if I can just convince her a little bling bling is a GOOD thing...
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Play Nice
I know not everyone has had the pleasure of dealing with an ex spouse. For those of you that don't fall in this category, I hope you never do. For me and my ex...we get along just fine.
There is another category considered ex spouses. Its where you are in a relationship and your significant other has an ex. I'm not going to trash anyone so don't get all into a tizzy (anyone wanting the scoop just call me, wink wink), but I do think that they should have specific classes on this issues for those of us that live in the world of rainbows and unicorns. I understand that there are hurt feelings involved. Feelings of jealously. Being replaced might even come to mind if kids are involved. It's not a competition. It isn't necessary to make pubic tantrums and have high school melt downs. There's a reason you all aren't together anymore! Get over it and move on and keep the trap shut in front of your kids, their friends and their friends parents! Yes, there should be rules!
And yes, I did say that one of my ex's "friends" had a horse face, but I consider that factual. I'm just saying!
There is another category considered ex spouses. Its where you are in a relationship and your significant other has an ex. I'm not going to trash anyone so don't get all into a tizzy (anyone wanting the scoop just call me, wink wink), but I do think that they should have specific classes on this issues for those of us that live in the world of rainbows and unicorns. I understand that there are hurt feelings involved. Feelings of jealously. Being replaced might even come to mind if kids are involved. It's not a competition. It isn't necessary to make pubic tantrums and have high school melt downs. There's a reason you all aren't together anymore! Get over it and move on and keep the trap shut in front of your kids, their friends and their friends parents! Yes, there should be rules!
And yes, I did say that one of my ex's "friends" had a horse face, but I consider that factual. I'm just saying!
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